Saturday, April 11, 2026

Running Wires #1

A reflection on indirect communication through third parties, highlighting how avoidance of directness creates distortion and reduces accountability.

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Running wires creates distance and confusion when communication moves indirectly instead of honestly and directly.

I am beginning to notice that avoiding direct communication is a pattern I have used at times. “Running wires” means going through other people instead of addressing something directly.

Most of the time, it comes from avoidance. Instead of dealing with something openly, I try to manage it indirectly, which creates confusion, miscommunication, and unnecessary tension.

Looking back, this was often connected to discomfort with confrontation. It felt easier to talk about an issue rather than face it directly.

The problem is that running wires distort communication. It separates me from my accountability and can create accounts that are not fully accurate.

This also connects directly to “confrontation is valid,” because if confrontation is part of growth, then running wires becomes a way of avoiding that process. It also connects to “personal growth before vested status,” because indirect communication can come from being more focused on how I am perceived than on being honest.

Recovery is teaching me that direct communication—when done respectfully—is more aligned with growth. It keeps things clear, accountable, and grounded in reality.

For me, this is about recognizing when I am avoiding directness and choosing to communicate more openly instead. Today, I am trying to be more direct, more honest, and less avoidant in my communication.